7 Powerful Words To Help You Through Life

Personal development books or articles, mention the essence of a positive attitude. Whether using the exact words or paraphrased, it is hard to miss hints about positivity.

Keep a positive attitude.

Mindset is everything.

If you wish it, you can get it.

Know that everything takes time to deliver the results you desire.

If you can’t climb a mountain today, climb a hill.

Yes, you can!

Positive attitude is the chief ingredient for success. Coupled with working smartly, consistently, and truthfully. Even though looking for the best in everything when something is skidding to the wrong lane is hard, friend(s) or your virtual self may decide to chip in to bring out the vibrant and ambitious version of their friends.


Having friends working in different professional spheres (IT departments, food outlets, communication, clothing stores, and agriculture) has taught me there is enough for everyone. We need each other.

One sunny afternoon, Sam and I were complaining about the minimal or no income we were making. After an hour of whining, I suggested extensive analysis of our activities, and attending leadership and networking forums as often as possible.

That said and halfheartedly agreed to, I wrote one of my favourite quotes on sticker notes and gave it to him.

I have not failed. I just found 10000 ways that did not work.

– Thomas Edison

We extensively analyzed each other’s situation, to see what to change, add, or eliminate. After parting, instead of the cliché “I wish you the best”, I messaged, “I wish you what you wish yourself” and he was more than thrilled.

From that day onwards, whenever he says he is pitching a new client or sending a job application, I always wish him what he wishes himself, and vice versa.

Sam: Ever since you sent the message, I no longer label myself a loser or incapable. It’s a challenge! Sometimes when I’m alone, I imagine my virtual-self uttering the words and immediately get rid of negative thoughts.

Thus, if searching for a job, pitching new clients, seeking challenging opportunities that allow you to grow, or any other, I wish you what you wish yourself.

Commonly Asked Questions About Serious Relationships

We are different. And the differences, no matter how insignificant they may seem, have an impact on the choices we make every day. That is, what we choose to work on and ignore, when we choose, the selection criteria, and the behaviour thereafter. Relationships are similar. They say opposites attract so here are a few questions you should consider.


1. Who is an ideal partner?

An ideal partner is not the wealthiest or the poorest person you’ll meet. An ideal partner is not the most beautiful or the ugliest person in the room. An ideal partner is not the most or least fashionable person. An ideal partner is not the one who posts you in every social media platform proclaiming love. Pays for all your vacations, or wipes particles of dust before they reach your cloth.

An ideal partner is the one who accepts you wholly, grows with you, for you, and for themselves. An ideal partner doesn’t make you feel insecure or irrelevant. He/she allows you to grow in all aspects of life. An ideal partner is the one you feel most comfortable with when the world is silent, when no one cares about the internet, vacations, or the outside world. An ideal partner is not like your best friend’s partner. An ideal partner is your heart’s choice and peace. An ideal partner is your destination and the most interesting adventure.

With an ideal partner, there is comfort and happiness.

2. How do you know that the person is the ONE?

Your heart and guts will tell you. Although at times we choose people who later choose others, a time comes and there is no doubt that whoever you are with is the one.

3. When do you know the person is the ONE?

There is no standard time for it. Sometimes it takes years of self-awareness and learning about and from each other to get the conviction. Other times, eyes meet and all the cards fall into place.

Then again, dating someone for years does not guarantee marriage thereafter. Some misunderstandings can create irreconcilable differences. With some, it’s the kiss, the right word at the right time, their reaction towards some situations, or how the personalities match.

4. When is the right time to marry?

Whenever you feel it’s the right time. It’s not after acquiring a certain amount of money, age, degrees, years of experience, wealth, or after mom’s pressure for grandkids. Although the mentioned factors need consideration, you might lose trying to have what others have. Don’t do it if you aren’t ready.

5. What is the pillar of relationships?

There are multiple pillars for a lasting relationship and effective communication takes the lead.

P.s Nobody can read your mind so speak up.

By communicating, you know what your partner wants, when, how they want it, number of times, what they detest, why, and can eventually agree how to live harmoniously.

No matter how uncomfortable the conversation may seem to be, talk about it as openly and exhaustively as possible. Talk about the goals, success, failures, sex life, finances, and what you expect from each other.

6. What should you avoid in a relationship?

Lying and withholding information from your partner. Nobody can choose lies over brutal honesty. If something makes you uncomfortable, bring it the table and dissect to the last bit. Although there may be instances when your partner thinks you are rude or insensitive, this should not lead you to lying. They may not say a word for days or weeks. At least you’ll have a clear conscience knowing you helped them realize how they are leading their lives and how they can attain their highest and most admirable selves.

Remember you are not irreplaceable hence; do not make your partner feel unworthy of love or unappreciated. Even though you are unique and nobody can offer what you offer in your way. Even after grand weddings, they can easily get the love they deserve elsewhere.

7. What should you definitely do in a relationship?

If you’ve decided to be in each other’s lives, know that it is no one’s responsibility to text first, call first, buy gifts, or plan surprises. As soon as you embrace that it’s every person’s obligation to create a home, everything flows smoothly.

Remember, sometimes the warrior needs to be fought for and the minute he/she realizes the unreciprocated efforts, he/ she stops trying and the couple successfully grows apart.

8. Will money have an impact on the relationship?

Money has a huge impact in the relationship (this is not code that you should marry the poorest, laziest, or richest person you can find). From the method of acquiring (inherited, lottery, earned) to spending, the couple can either break up or grow together.

Set goals, define the responsibilities, and develop a code of methods of acquiring and spending.

Few people are likely to settle with partners who engage in illegal businesses or squander the money and have no interest of mending their behaviour despite constant reminders.

Also, if only one is catering for the bills, without any form of support, they can easily opt for a break. Those who don’t spare time for their loved ones can also find themselves in a black hole of regret and nursing heartbreak.

Money can’t buy happiness in entirety. You can buy your dream car but the money cannot fill the human desire for concern and support. You can lie in bed ill, with billions in your bank account, but if no one cares to know whether your drugs are available or have taken the recommended meals, the wave of emptiness can easily engulf, and depression kick in.

With that in mind, don’t push your boyfriend or girlfriend away after attaining a specific amount of money thinking they have nothing to offer.

Money gives power. Nonetheless, your non-working or low-earning partner is not worthless. The ‘trivial’ deeds of preparing breakfast, taking care of the kids and the home are important.
Money has an impact in every stage of a relationship.

9. Whom should I approach first when tragedy strikes?

Your partner.

He or she may not know there is a pending matter in the relationship and the most unpleasant news is hearing about it from a friend, accidentally or willingly. Some people see this as not caring about the relationships but sometimes, the partner could have underestimated the impact of the pending matter on the relationship or looked at it from a different angle. Whatever it is, communicate fully and seek solutions together.

10. What is a perfect relationship?

If you mean where there are no mistakes or arguments, you won’t find any. People interpret “Perfect” in whichever way they want. Nobody is perfect. You may find that your significant other, the person who eliminates all your doubts and fears, throws dirty socks everywhere or likes too much sugar in their tea. Even those who look like they have it all together fight and make up all the time.

Are you now ready for a serious relationship?

7 Relationship Breakers You Might Be Guilty Of

Let’s face it, everybody has a limit. Even the most accommodating person, if overburdened or disrespected, will eventually lift a palm, turn the head to the opposite side and say enough is enough. Time comes and people run out of second chances.

To avoid the agony of regret, read the following deal breakers and act responsibly.

1. Comparing your partner to others

The only time people appreciate comparison and being ranked at the top is during job considerations and beauty contests. Nonetheless, you should’nt make it a habit to compare your journey with others, this can lead to low self esteem.

Your partner may not have much money or status quo as you would like, but they are still important. When the spirit of comparison seeps and settles in one person’s mind, he or she may notice only the flaws and minimal contributions of the partner.

2. Being an unsupportive partner

You may have heard of couples in different careers, different ambitions, and philosophies. Supporting your partner while he or she is trying to actualize the dreams strengthens the bond.

To a doctor, being a spiritual healer may look lame and a total waste of time, but if that is what your partner wants, if that is where all the senses and attention are, be supportive.

Support is diverse; monetary, emotional, intellectual, giving them time to think things through, updating about social programs in the same field or escorting them.

3. Being a burden to your partner

Second chances are limited. When one person realizes that he or she is being taken advantage of, the relationship takes the first step downhill.

4. Sharing intimate details with people

As you interact with friends and talk about relationships, choose your words carefully. If you can’t, change the topic or avoid the meetings entirely.

Details from finances, career progress to sexual relations, should not go beyond the bedroom door because they can damage your partner’s reputation.

5. Poor or lack of communication

Open communication is the main pillar of a relationship. Also, poor communication is the relationship killer. Your partner cannot and will never be able to read your mind and the earlier you accept it, the better. Frowning or hiding behind closed doors won’t help either.

If something makes you uncomfortable, share it with your partner. They may not realize it’s affecting you. With bills pilling and dreams calling to be actualized, guessing time and again what could be bothering the other person is the last thing in mind.

6. Mismanagement of resources

The future is bright for those who are making their days count and use the resources wisely. No one will be willing to spend his or her day, let alone a lifetime with a spendthrift. If this is your greatest weakness, let your partner know. Find a solution early into the relationship.

7. Being disrespectful

Know what irks your partner and avoid it. In a relationship, you ought to consider the impact of an action on your partner, and the relationship generally. No matter how trivial the matter seems, the guiding principle matters.

If you want to make your relationship work, avoid these relationship breakers like the plague.

Fun And Flirty Gift Ideas For Her.

Love to me is the 8th wonder of the world. Imagine living in a world without love. Pathetic, isn’t it? We all struggle to find love. keeping a lady all to yourself is even more difficult. But with the provision of gifts hinged on unconditional love, I can assure you, her heart will melt for you.

Remember the last time someone got you a gift, how did you feel. Did it sweep away all the stress you had? Did it unlock your happiness? Your lady should feel the same. A gift is such good fun that it can make a lady project all her love for you. Below are the three types of gifts that will make her heart blend to yours quickly.


Underneath the tight schedules that sometimes come with a new day, your lady needs the comfort of a wonderful phone. Don’t forget, we live in a world that technology is awed at and appreciated greatly.

Mobile phones are a complete escape from reality. They’ll guarantee your lover ample time to chat with you and as if that won’t be enough, you’ll even frame a video call. One that will let both your heart sink in affection and satisfaction. And if you are to get her one, make sure the camera megapixel is on the high end.

I bet you’ll want her to send you pictures of her beautiful smooth face and her perfect soft lips.

2.A gorgeous dress.

We all know ladies prefer dresses. Consider her taste when buying the dress. Go for the colour she likes. The moment she’ll slide her petite body into the dress she’ll see the colour of your love painted all over it. She’ll walk knowing your love for her outdoes all.

3.Custom necklace or jewelry

If you want the air around your lady to feel like a wall of love then surprise her with an ornate customized necklace. Ladies love unique gifts.

A customized necklace bearing both your names will make her feel adorned and adored. She’ll move with grace and strength. You would have prettified her and she’ll love you for that.

You don’t have to be from northern America, Probably from the heart of Mexico for you to prove to a woman that you love her. Love her but don’t lust over her. Surprise her with gifts and who knows, you could be our next Romeo.

Bottled Up Feelings

It’s okay not to be okay. A phrase we’ve heard so many times its meaning has become meaningless to us. We’re still in that cocoon. Afraid to let others in, and when we actually decide to talk, our story is shared with every Tom, Dick and whoever the other guy was. We end up lonely, depressed and thoughts, ugly self-harming thoughts, terrorise our already hurt hearts

Mercy, my good friend, loved Peter. She had planned a life with him. They planned to visit places once they started making some real cash. Where they would settle down together and can you believe they even had names for their future kids? They were dumb, quite deep and very much in love.

Ever felt like you were meant to be with someone? How everything about you blend in together to make that perfect, thirst quenching cocktail? Ha! That’s how they were. I really wanted to have that kind of relationship.
Sadly, just like most romantic movies, they broke up. It’s weird how we tell ourselves that some things will not break our tiny hearts. How we lie to ourselves to get through some heart breaks, losses and even betrayals by those we hold dear.

“I didn’t even like him.” “I don’t need her to survive.” “Am independent, for crying out loud!”

We end up posting Bible motivational verses. Some celebrity affirmation quotes on our social media platforms just to show the world that we’re fine. Knowing very well that our hearts are broken and we are definitely not fine.
My mum likes reminding me “A problem shared is a problem half solved.”

Let me wind up Mercy and her guy’s story. You see, unlike a romantic movie, they didn’t get back together. Mercy was torn up. Mood level at zero, slowly by slowly she let out her feelings, she said “Were it not for my aunt, I don’t know what I would’ve done.” When it comes to heartbreaks, a problem shared is a problem solved.
On the other hand James decided to be strong. To be fine for the cameras, on cloud nine.

Bottled feelings will never disappear. They’ll eat you up and if you don’t do anything, just like Mercy’s ex, you might end up hurting yourself .Yes, he hurt himself. Tried suicide and if his brother entered his room a minute late, he would be dead.

Most of us are like him. We bottle things up, sometimes cry ourselves to sleep and lie just to seem okay. We need to change. We have to change. So let’s try opening up to live a healthier and happier life. There is so much more that life has in stored for us.