7 Powerful Words To Help You Through Life

Personal development books or articles, mention the essence of a positive attitude. Whether using the exact words or paraphrased, it is hard to miss hints about positivity.

Keep a positive attitude.

Mindset is everything.

If you wish it, you can get it.

Know that everything takes time to deliver the results you desire.

If you can’t climb a mountain today, climb a hill.

Yes, you can!

Positive attitude is the chief ingredient for success. Coupled with working smartly, consistently, and truthfully. Even though looking for the best in everything when something is skidding to the wrong lane is hard, friend(s) or your virtual self may decide to chip in to bring out the vibrant and ambitious version of their friends.

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Having friends working in different professional spheres (IT departments, food outlets, communication, clothing stores, and agriculture) has taught me there is enough for everyone. We need each other.

One sunny afternoon, Sam and I were complaining about the minimal or no income we were making. After an hour of whining, I suggested extensive analysis of our activities, and attending leadership and networking forums as often as possible.

That said and halfheartedly agreed to, I wrote one of my favourite quotes on sticker notes and gave it to him.

I have not failed. I just found 10000 ways that did not work.

– Thomas Edison

We extensively analyzed each other’s situation, to see what to change, add, or eliminate. After parting, instead of the cliché “I wish you the best”, I messaged, “I wish you what you wish yourself” and he was more than thrilled.

From that day onwards, whenever he says he is pitching a new client or sending a job application, I always wish him what he wishes himself, and vice versa.

Sam: Ever since you sent the message, I no longer label myself a loser or incapable. It’s a challenge! Sometimes when I’m alone, I imagine my virtual-self uttering the words and immediately get rid of negative thoughts.

Thus, if searching for a job, pitching new clients, seeking challenging opportunities that allow you to grow, or any other, I wish you what you wish yourself.

Commonly Asked Questions About Serious Relationships

We are different. And the differences, no matter how insignificant they may seem, have an impact on the choices we make every day. That is, what we choose to work on and ignore, when we choose, the selection criteria, and the behaviour thereafter. Relationships are similar. They say opposites attract so here are a few questions you should consider.

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1. Who is an ideal partner?

An ideal partner is not the wealthiest or the poorest person you’ll meet. An ideal partner is not the most beautiful or the ugliest person in the room. An ideal partner is not the most or least fashionable person. An ideal partner is not the one who posts you in every social media platform proclaiming love. Pays for all your vacations, or wipes particles of dust before they reach your cloth.

An ideal partner is the one who accepts you wholly, grows with you, for you, and for themselves. An ideal partner doesn’t make you feel insecure or irrelevant. He/she allows you to grow in all aspects of life. An ideal partner is the one you feel most comfortable with when the world is silent, when no one cares about the internet, vacations, or the outside world. An ideal partner is not like your best friend’s partner. An ideal partner is your heart’s choice and peace. An ideal partner is your destination and the most interesting adventure.

With an ideal partner, there is comfort and happiness.

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2. How do you know that the person is the ONE?

Your heart and guts will tell you. Although at times we choose people who later choose others, a time comes and there is no doubt that whoever you are with is the one.

3. When do you know the person is the ONE?

There is no standard time for it. Sometimes it takes years of self-awareness and learning about and from each other to get the conviction. Other times, eyes meet and all the cards fall into place.

Then again, dating someone for years does not guarantee marriage thereafter. Some misunderstandings can create irreconcilable differences. With some, it’s the kiss, the right word at the right time, their reaction towards some situations, or how the personalities match.

4. When is the right time to marry?

Whenever you feel it’s the right time. It’s not after acquiring a certain amount of money, age, degrees, years of experience, wealth, or after mom’s pressure for grandkids. Although the mentioned factors need consideration, you might lose trying to have what others have. Don’t do it if you aren’t ready.

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5. What is the pillar of relationships?

There are multiple pillars for a lasting relationship and effective communication takes the lead.

P.s Nobody can read your mind so speak up.

By communicating, you know what your partner wants, when, how they want it, number of times, what they detest, why, and can eventually agree how to live harmoniously.

No matter how uncomfortable the conversation may seem to be, talk about it as openly and exhaustively as possible. Talk about the goals, success, failures, sex life, finances, and what you expect from each other.

6. What should you avoid in a relationship?

Lying and withholding information from your partner. Nobody can choose lies over brutal honesty. If something makes you uncomfortable, bring it the table and dissect to the last bit. Although there may be instances when your partner thinks you are rude or insensitive, this should not lead you to lying. They may not say a word for days or weeks. At least you’ll have a clear conscience knowing you helped them realize how they are leading their lives and how they can attain their highest and most admirable selves.

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Remember you are not irreplaceable hence; do not make your partner feel unworthy of love or unappreciated. Even though you are unique and nobody can offer what you offer in your way. Even after grand weddings, they can easily get the love they deserve elsewhere.

7. What should you definitely do in a relationship?

If you’ve decided to be in each other’s lives, know that it is no one’s responsibility to text first, call first, buy gifts, or plan surprises. As soon as you embrace that it’s every person’s obligation to create a home, everything flows smoothly.

Remember, sometimes the warrior needs to be fought for and the minute he/she realizes the unreciprocated efforts, he/ she stops trying and the couple successfully grows apart.

8. Will money have an impact on the relationship?

Money has a huge impact in the relationship (this is not code that you should marry the poorest, laziest, or richest person you can find). From the method of acquiring (inherited, lottery, earned) to spending, the couple can either break up or grow together.

Set goals, define the responsibilities, and develop a code of methods of acquiring and spending.

Few people are likely to settle with partners who engage in illegal businesses or squander the money and have no interest of mending their behaviour despite constant reminders.

Also, if only one is catering for the bills, without any form of support, they can easily opt for a break. Those who don’t spare time for their loved ones can also find themselves in a black hole of regret and nursing heartbreak.

Money can’t buy happiness in entirety. You can buy your dream car but the money cannot fill the human desire for concern and support. You can lie in bed ill, with billions in your bank account, but if no one cares to know whether your drugs are available or have taken the recommended meals, the wave of emptiness can easily engulf, and depression kick in.

With that in mind, don’t push your boyfriend or girlfriend away after attaining a specific amount of money thinking they have nothing to offer.

Money gives power. Nonetheless, your non-working or low-earning partner is not worthless. The ‘trivial’ deeds of preparing breakfast, taking care of the kids and the home are important.
Money has an impact in every stage of a relationship.

9. Whom should I approach first when tragedy strikes?

Your partner.

He or she may not know there is a pending matter in the relationship and the most unpleasant news is hearing about it from a friend, accidentally or willingly. Some people see this as not caring about the relationships but sometimes, the partner could have underestimated the impact of the pending matter on the relationship or looked at it from a different angle. Whatever it is, communicate fully and seek solutions together.

10. What is a perfect relationship?

If you mean where there are no mistakes or arguments, you won’t find any. People interpret “Perfect” in whichever way they want. Nobody is perfect. You may find that your significant other, the person who eliminates all your doubts and fears, throws dirty socks everywhere or likes too much sugar in their tea. Even those who look like they have it all together fight and make up all the time.

Are you now ready for a serious relationship?

Twists To This Question Have No Answer

Wondering if there’s anything geniuses don’t know?

Read on.

Undoubtedly, curiosity mothers development, whether personal or professional. The emergence of wanting-to-know is what leads people to step out of their comfort zone and go the extra mile to quench the thirst. We attribute crossing dangerous waters, reaching the loftiest heights and mind-blowing discoveries to curiosity, following the inner voice patiently and wholeheartedly.

However, smart work, patience, persistence, and constant refining of the principles and the working strategies, do not guarantee no attainment of the goals and at the anticipated time.

What happens after meticulously uniting beads to the thread is entirely out of our control.

Success rises from internal and external factors- some of which we can control, and others can’t. That is, reading about running a business is one piece of thread in a fringe, since you also need to act on it. And, not just reading from books, but also from the surroundings. After reacting and acting in the best manner possible, we have to wait.

Not to be a naysayer but, there comes a time when you hit a bump when following the trail of quenching drops- and some have a story of how they have hopped from one tragedy to another. Whether you totally didn’t see it coming (which most of the times we don’t), or you underestimated the impact. The minor setback should not make me recoil or decide to never try.
It’s too early to sign up for regret. And the deeper the love for comfort in the comfort zone, the wider the gap, and the fiercer the enmity between you and success.

A decline in sales, assistants quitting without prior notice, irreconcilable differences affecting the performance, being dumped shortly after losing your job, meeting a dark corner right after using all your energy passing through another, or getting a pebble in the foot with your hands tied to the back, are common encounters that manifest in different ways. But, you can reset the compass. The way out of the hell is through.

The future of the business or hustle, or how you choose to call it depends on how you respond to the moments of crisis.

As humans (I don’t know about other animals), the first thing we do after hitting a bump is ask, why me. Sadly, no one knows the answer to this question, which reminds us of the powerlessness of man. Fortunately, we can’t queue to punish the cause of the mishaps. From prophets to scientists, why some things happen to some people remains a mystery.

Assuming two women are healthy and have not participated in self-harming habits, nobody knows why one woman would conceive effortlessly while the other struggles for decades.

Assuming two graduates have the same set of skills, nobody knows why one secures a job in multinational companies quickly while the other struggles for years only to get acceptance for peanut of a salary.

Even though some attribute to generational curses or past mistakes hence karma, the person at the advising end picks the most convincing explanation.

While there is no harm in thinking about the setbacks, how long one dwells on it has a direct impact on the future. Challenges are part of life for they unleash the shine, the glow, the fierce, and the unstoppable, from the marrow to the world. Challenges do not define us. We are defined by how we respond, what we respond to, when and why.

In the past, I have found that, the more time I spent agonizing over the heaps of mountains over my head, for things I couldn’t understand or link to my past mistakes, the more unworthy I felt. We may not have similar reactions, but a lot of why me, paves the way for self-pity, feeling worthless, powerless, or not being in the league of successful people.

There is pain behind the question and too much personalization of the tragedy- thinking that you are the only one going through tough times and should maybe quit doing what you are doing. There is no shame in feeling vulnerable, but thinking you are meant to be vulnerable to attacks, day in and day out, well, that’s a shame!

What should you do after the chain of mishaps?

Extensive auditing of self and the situation. This helps understand the nature of the situation. What you should do, why, when, how, with whom, and how often. For what you can rectify, rectify!

For what you can’t attribute to your missed steps after extensive assessment,

• Accept that you won’t find a solid answer, and think about the next tactic.

• Accept man’s powerlessness despite being the most intelligent creature, this is a fact we often forget, and think about the next tactic. No one has an answer to it.

• Change the mindset. If your inner child is directing you to the particular hustle; be ready to pay the price. The mindset is the pillar of our dedication. Nobody said it would be easy, but nobody said it is meant to be unachievable either.

• Identify the most promising tactic, and use it maximally.

Don’t spend your last drop of blood destroying the foundation of what you have already started